Ma. Arlene Amazona

Whatever the reason for separation of two individuals, nobody can obviously say that it is easy. They say that we live in an imperfect world but we want a smooth sailing peaceful and perfect relationship. Yes, we can try to, but in reality? It’s not the case. Often times, we blame ourselves. We think that we are at fault.

After the break up, the painful separation, what’s next? Where do we go? How do we start? What do we do next? Who can tell? So many questions, but the answers are vague. Here are some suggestions, I hope it helps;

Acceptance, it’s not easy to just accept it and walk away. However, this is what we need to do. We can’t deny it for long; it would be just be too painful. The more you feel the pain, the more you will feel so helpless to the point that you will pity yourself. No. You are too good for that. You don’t deserve it. But you have to accept it no matter what you and others think of yourself. You have to let yourself really believe that yes, it is happening. It has ended.

Communicate, open up yourself. Don’t just let it sit there inside you. The more you think about it, the more you keep it inside you, the more you will feel alone and helpless. All negative feelings which are not healthy anymore will manifest. You will have anger or hatred in your heart. It would be a hindrance to move on. Talk to people whom you trust. Cry to them; pour your heart out to them. Let them know that you are truly hurt. That it is not easy for you. Tears does not mean that you are nothing, it is a sign of courage, a sign that you are accepting it, that you admit that at this point in time, you need people to be there for you. Believe me, they would. Family, friends and confidant, these people will be more than willing to listen.

Have faith, no matter what you believe, just believe it, that there is someone supreme who knows what you are going through. You don’t even have to say the words, He hears you.

Start anew, work, you have to learn living on your own. If you have kids, then you need to be strong for them. Start a new life by doing what you really would want to become. If you have a career, then make the most out of it. Concentrate and step up. If you are just starting, then work hard. You won’t even notice how time flies.

Love yourself, there no one can do this but you. Trust yourself, have confidence in yourself, respect yourself and believe in what you can do. There’s nothing to be ashamed of, what matters is that you are picking up yourself from where you fell. Move on.

I may not be able to say everything that might help you. There’s only one thing that you need to think in this blissful times; you are God’s child; you have all the power to choose what is right for you.