By Tina L. Jones 

Is your man resisting your efforts to make him fall in love with you? Is the relationship stalled, but he seems happy with the way things are? Are you looking for a secret potion that will flip on his love switch and get things rolling again? The wrong techniques could send him running, so follow this proven path and make him fall in love with you now.

 Make him like you

Most relationships start out backwards, with passion and fire and no foundation for a lasting bond. So start out by creating the strength of a solid connection first. The physical attraction may provide the spark and the kindling, but compassion and friendship are the logs that keep the fire burning.

Take a lesson from other more traditional cultures. In arranged marriages, for instance, a couple starts with no built-in passion. They help each other build a life and a family, and eventually, through mutual respect and shared experiences and struggles, they develop a deep and abiding love with a real passion for one another. The flame increases from nothing to a manageable and lasting warmth. It may never reach the heights of your initial fire, but it doesn’t burn down the house and leave you with ashes either.

You have something special together, so enhance the chemistry and magic with the friendship and shared experiences that will make him fall in love with you forever.

Win his respect and admiration

Show him the modern and independent woman you really are. Men want self-sufficient women, not needy, clingy little girls. Call some of the shots and keep your own life. This will allow him to have a night of his own too, and it will be less threatening for him. Show him your competence and professionalism in your work or forms of artistic expression. Let him see the wonderful way you treat your little sister, talk to your parents, and take your grandma to lunch. Show him that you can do it all by running a successful life and still looking great, always having a pleasant smile, and keeping the house in order too. If you can do it all, then he will admire you-and know that he can have it all if he’s with you.

Don’t rush into sex

Build that solid foundation first. Be loving but stingy with your touch and your kisses. Don’t let him be totally satisfied right away if you want to keep him wanting more. Remember, for him the hunt ends with the conquest-unless the relationship is on a solid emotion footing.

If you do it the right way with your man, you are going to make him fall in love, and stay in love with you.